Hi there!
With the seventh installment of Unseen Things coming out this weekend, and Valentine's Day on Sunday, I wanted to jump in here before hand and give a quick shout out to my single guys and gals that are dreading the "holiday" weekend.
That's right, "holiday" in quotes. Anyone who's spent any time being single has had the conversation with themselves about how Valentine's Day isn't a real holiday. How it is marketed simply to create consumer demand. Girlfriends, sweethearts, and wives all over the country are encouraged to guilt trip their special someone into spending his hard earned cash on useless items like flowers and diamonds. Yawn. Who needs to feel bad about that? We've all told ourselves. Yet there's still that sinking feeling when you walk past the candy aisle in the store and see thousands of pounds of chocolate wrapped in red and pink, or that death stare you give the TV when a romantic jewelry store commercial comes on.
Been there, done that! And on a side note, even though I've found my forever someone, Valentines Day really isn't a thing for Hubby and me. Because Love isn't something you should be guilt tripping. It's not something that you can box into any one special day. If he wants to say "I appreciate you" he brings me flowers (or tells me, or whatever)-- whenever! Or if I want him to know I was thinking about him that day... well the options are pretty endless. Why confine a love that's special and unique to the two of you to a day that someone else has set? But regardless, it is tough when it seems like the whole world is celebrating love, and you've got nothin'. Like I said, been there, done that. And nothing anyone can say in a blog post can change that gnawing feeling of being alone. Just know that you really aren't alone.
Maybe if you're spending this Valentines Day by yourself you can try this. Once you've moped and pity partied sufficiently (go ahead and buy yourself that box of chocolates, too. Trust me, no one's pointing fingers), find someone else you know who's spending the day alone. Single friend? Cousin? Someone who found the love of their life and then lost them? Someone who's lovey-dovey is deployed? Send them a text to say hi, or take them on a date. 'Cause wouldn't it mean the world if someone did that for you?
